The wrong guy

Lineup-big(2)Long ago and far away, Angela Cody picked the wrong guy. Sadly, she’s had to live with the consequences ever since.

Ladies: have you, too, picked the wrong guy? Are you strangely attracted to bad boy types who abuse you mentally, physically or psychologically? Well, chill, because:

  • You’re not alone
  • There’s a new, how-to book by Dawn Maslar  that provides sure-fire tips to help you stop picking losers (and ruining your image and reputation in the process).

Deb ‘Kangoo’ Brown and I recently sat down with the author to discuss the bad boy phenomenon, and why so many women are so attracted to so many malevolent men. It was a way cool discussion in which quite a few female (and male) Peppercommers participated as well.

So, sit back, download the podcast, fire up the iPod and find out how you, too, can stop picking the wrong guy. Now, if only there was a book about to avoid picking the wrong clients…


13 thoughts on “The wrong guy

  1. Bubbles I think the connection his it trying to make with the older man and younger women with the smart women and the bad boy is that both couples are in denial. The older man and the smart woman might know the truth deep down, but each is hoping it will be different with them.

  2. GTPE: Not sure I see the connection between an old man who tries to convince himself his girlfriend is not a hooker and a smart woman who falls for a bad boy.

  3. I only half-agree with you, Bubbles; a woman who has a modicum of self-respect will buy into Bad Boy behavior…for awhile. It’s the truth and we all know it. After that, it gets very old. Hey, everyone makes mistakes. I’m not sure it’s much different than those insecure middle-aged rich guys who chase fashion models the same age as their daughters. Don’t they always convince themselves the sweet young thing on their arm isn’t after the money?

  4. I am sorry Peter but “the biggest aphrodisiac to such women is complete unreliability, mystery of a man’s doings…” is crap. Well, maybe for some women, but not for any woman who has more than a modicum of self-respect.

  5. What continues to amaze me is how otherwise smart women persist in believing that she’s the one who can change a bad boy. Best example: Sandra Bullock’s humiliation by porn-star cheating Jesse James right after she won the Oscar.
    The one thing I wish I’d learned earlier is that the biggest aphrodisiac to such women is complete unreliability, mystery of a man’s doings, and the power of the word “No.” I say this as a longtime good boy who got sick of losing out to bad boys at 30; I joined that club for about 12 years before becoming a happily married man.

  6. What about all the born-again Christians who, a la 43, saw the light and changed their evil ways in midlife? Surely, a dunking in the River Jordan would cleanse the dirtiest of bad boys, no?

  7. Rep, bad boys don’t change. They know their appeal is in being dangerous, and they need the constant affirmation that comes from women who say they should know better, but get involved anyway. Women don’t make (or break) a bad boy.

  8. Glad you enjoyed the conversation, Julie. I’ll defer to Dawn on the analysis, but wonder if a bad boy can change his ways if he finds the right woman? I know I’m game.

  9. Fascinating discussion, RepMan and Dawn.
    I find it interesting that (some) women go for the “bad boy” archetype, while (some) men want the “trophy wife.” Maybe it’s the art of the chase that’s most attractive.