When did being single become a crime?

Today’s guest blog is written by a young lady who absolutely tore it up during her five-year stint at Peppercomm and is now doing the same at a top 10 global firm.

Her column, however, has nothing whatsoever to do with public relations and everything to do with the increasing insensitivity of people and in every walk of life….

At a Memorial Day barbeque last weekend, a family friend asked me, “So, have you met any special guys yet?” I responded with humor to deflect the hurt: “I meet lots of guys – none of them are special, though.”

I’m used to this question. As an almost 30-year-old woman who is – GASP – still single, I hear it a lot. I expect it from family and friends. I DON’T expect it from Adweek. (In case you missed it, Adweek’s Patrick Coffee wrote an article in April detailing Grey Group’s new 4-day work week policy.) Seemingly innocuous, right? WRONG.

After detailing the new policy (staffers who choose to opt in can work four day weeks in exchange for a 15 percent pay cut), Coffee goes on to say, “Before you all freak out, we’re told that this shift came about due to employee demand. Even those who don’t have kids know how tough it can be working in advertising as a parent … and then there’s whatever single people do when they’re not in the office. (Check Fishbowl incessantly?)”

I didn’t realize that single people are less deserving of work-life balance than their married counterparts. So let me shed some light on what single people do: we do what people in relationships do…with less fighting J. We work out, we spend time with family, we hang out with our friends. You know – NORMAL stuff. We’re not tethered to Fishbowl (because, that app is so ten years ago, Coffee). We may use Hinge, Happ’n, Tinder or other apps to meet people, but that doesn’t mean we don’t deserve basic human respect.

So the next time you happen upon a single person, please don’t belittle him or her. Please don’t think that just because we’re single, we have ample free time to work weekends, we check dating apps incessantly, or that we live a less fulfilling life.

9 thoughts on “When did being single become a crime?

  1. Nailed it yet again, CC! Very relatable and a proper response to Coffee’s article.

  2. Today, couples share responsibilities, so two people are handling chores. When you are single, you do it all!

  3. Three observations for the Adweek writer, Mr. Coffee (Oh, I’ll bet he loves that)
    1) Does Adweek pay you more to snark like that?
    2) I’m inclined to think your style is too arch for a mere trade-noter.
    3) FYI, even duffers like me know Fishbowl is so very 2011.

    FWIW Catherine, I went through this when I was single too and got married late. It taught me never to act that way to anyone.

  4. Brilliant post, Catharine. This is one more example of conscious or unconscious biases that we as a society should have put behind us a long time ago. Thanks for sharing it and reminding us all.

  5. Totally perfect post! Similar things could be said about comments and workplace policies regarding parents/nonparents. World needs to get a grip – single, partnered, parents, nonparents (whether by choice, chance, or happenstance) are all PEOPLE WITH LIVES outside of work.